You didn't start your marriage with the expectation you'd be going through a separation and divorce.
Even if things weren’t so great in your marriage recently, this idea of divorce may still feel like a shock to you. When you said those vows, you thought they were forever. You committed to your partner.
So as you begin this process, it all feels a bit unreal. You're picking up the pieces and you don’t know how to deal with any of it.
No one else seems to really get what you’re going through. Sure, your family and friends, at least the ones who know, are supportive of you. They love you. They might even be mad at your partner. And maybe that feels good temporarily, but you still feel alone.
You feel confused and alone, starting your life over.
You go through waves of sadness, anger, confusion, and fear. Sometimes you don’t know what to expect, and sometimes you don’t even know what you’re feeling.
This whole divorce process feels like a wrecking ball, destroying everything in its path. You’re left in ruins, having to start your life over from the ground up.
You’d always wanted a great marriage. (Of course, who doesn’t?). You spent so much time and energy with your partner. You had plans and dreams for your future together. It wasn't all bad. Now looking back on those days, you’re trying to see it more clearly, to figure out what went wrong. But it’s still so confusing.
You felt so sure of your partner, and now, you don’t know what you can be sure of. The person you counted on, trusted, dedicated your life to- they aren't there anymore.
Some days you’re mad. Some days you blame yourself and worry if you’ll ever have love again, or if you’ll ever want it again. You thought you’d have the rest of your life together. Now you have an entirely different future ahead of you.
I know this process of separation and divorce is complicated, challenging, and maybe even unexpected for you right now. You’re hurting and you need help. So how do you get through this?
Well, you don't have to do it alone. You don’t have to go through the painful process of separation and divorce without support. I know this time can be confusing, scary, stressful, and anxiety-provoking. There is grief and loss in your pain. I know there may be days you struggle to leave home, and there may be days you don’t want to go home.
It's okay to take this one day at a time. You may find you need someone to listen, to help you process through everything you’re feeling, or to help you think clearly and set new boundaries. Seeking therapy for divorce support is a brave step in knowing your own strength.
You’re facing a long journey ahead, and there will be many challenges along the way. So I’m here to listen, support you, and help you work through all the hurt to begin creating a new life for yourself, with a future that you can be excited for.
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